Dec. 6, 2021

EP126 - Suspend Judgement of Others

EP126 - Suspend Judgement of Others

Good day, my friends. Welcome to a moment with Moj. Thank you so much for downloading the show. I am so happy that you are here today. I am super excited, later on after work, I'm going to the recording studio for what I hope is the last session for this group of songs. They're almost done. It's been a four year process. Going to get to hang out with Kris and Mike, my recording engineer, who both have been so kind and mentoring on this project. I can't wait to share them with you. Hope you had a great weekend, and are ready to get started on a new week. Let's welcome Epictetus back to the show and Epictetus tells us, "We are not privy to the stories behind people's actions so we should be patient with others and suspend judgment of them. Recognizing the limits of our understanding."

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WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:12.760 Good Day, my friends 2 00:00:14.020 --> 00:00:20.960 welcome you a moment with Moge. Thank you so much for downloading the show. I 3 00:00:21.040 --> 00:00:26.420 am so happy that you are here to day, and I am super excited 4 00:00:27.420 --> 00:00:34.340 later on after work, I'm going to the recording studio for what I hope is the 5 00:00:34.380 --> 00:00:37.580 last session for this group of songs. 6 00:00:38.680 --> 00:00:44.820 They're almost done, it's been a four year process going to get to hang out 7 00:00:45.000 --> 00:00:51.280 with Chris and Mike my recording engineer, who both been so kind and 8 00:00:51.520 --> 00:00:53.280 mentoring on this project. 9 00:00:54.340 --> 00:00:55.340 I can't wait 10 00:00:56.760 --> 00:00:57.720 to share them with you 11 00:00:58.760 --> 00:01:05.459 hope you had a great weekend and are ready to get started on a new week. 12 00:01:06.720 --> 00:01:09.520 Let's welcome epic tetus back to the show. 13 00:01:10.620 --> 00:01:17.480 An epictetus tells us. We are not privy to the stories behind people's actions, 14 00:01:18.440 --> 00:01:24.180 so we should be patient with others and suspend judgment of them, recognizing 15 00:01:24.260 --> 00:01:28.320 the limits of our understanding. We are constantly 16 00:01:29.400 --> 00:01:31.680 bombarded with impressions. 17 00:01:32.880 --> 00:01:38.760 The ancient stoics defined an impression as a precognitive judgment 18 00:01:39.120 --> 00:01:42.020 originating from our previous experiences 19 00:01:43.060 --> 00:01:45.700 or are subconscious thinking 20 00:01:46.880 --> 00:01:53.560 the impressions that we get are not under our direct control, but whether 21 00:01:53.720 --> 00:01:55.800 we accept them as true or not. 22 00:01:57.180 --> 00:01:58.640 That depends on us 23 00:01:59.940 --> 00:02:06.360 our brain likes to create short cuts, so it will start to recognize patterns 24 00:02:06.900 --> 00:02:10.900 that it thinks are going to keep us safe, so it can make a quick decision 25 00:02:11.680 --> 00:02:12.660 and save energy. 26 00:02:14.160 --> 00:02:19.320 We need to understand where these judgments come from a lot of these 27 00:02:19.360 --> 00:02:25.300 times. These judgments aren't even ours a lot of them. We've picked up from 28 00:02:25.320 --> 00:02:28.380 other people, especially as we were growing up. 29 00:02:29.860 --> 00:02:37.520 We need to examine these judgments all the time to determine whether they're 30 00:02:37.620 --> 00:02:43.120 still serving us. These judgments become part of us and part of our 31 00:02:43.160 --> 00:02:47.740 identity. When it comes to other folks and the things that they do, 32 00:02:49.300 --> 00:02:55.400 we must recognize that we don't have all the background information on 33 00:02:55.660 --> 00:02:58.280 anything, that's happening at the moment. 34 00:02:59.800 --> 00:03:00.640 All that we have 35 00:03:01.980 --> 00:03:07.740 it's a snap shot of what is happening and that our perception of what is 36 00:03:07.780 --> 00:03:13.160 happening. It's just that only our perception 37 00:03:14.480 --> 00:03:19.880 when we can remember that we come to the realization that we don't know 38 00:03:20.220 --> 00:03:26.000 enough of a back story to judge somebody for their actions. 39 00:03:27.680 --> 00:03:33.260 Of course, you guys know me my examples always come from behind the wheel. You 40 00:03:33.300 --> 00:03:37.200 don't know why. Somebody cut you off in traffic 41 00:03:38.320 --> 00:03:43.660 speaking for myself. The initial thought is your nos, but that just may 42 00:03:43.720 --> 00:03:48.900 not be the case. There could be something going on that that person 43 00:03:49.280 --> 00:03:55.860 needs to get one. We can list all the different reasons why somebody might be 44 00:03:55.960 --> 00:04:03.180 in a hurry and might cut us on. Usually I'm betting, just being an Aswell, is 45 00:04:03.420 --> 00:04:03.800 probably 46 00:04:04.900 --> 00:04:10.440 pretty low on the list. That's an impression. That comes to my mind right 47 00:04:10.500 --> 00:04:17.100 away, but I don't have to accept that. As the truth, I don't have to accept 48 00:04:17.180 --> 00:04:22.940 that that person is doing not on purpose just to get on my nerves. 49 00:04:24.260 --> 00:04:25.940 While we're talking about judgment, 50 00:04:26.960 --> 00:04:31.100 let's spend a little time my self judgment a Porre. 51 00:04:32.100 --> 00:04:37.100 We spent a lot of time, judging ourselves and all the ways that we 52 00:04:37.260 --> 00:04:42.540 don't measure it. We have all these expectations of what we should be, 53 00:04:44.200 --> 00:04:50.320 rather than just learning to accept ourselves as who we actually, 54 00:04:51.740 --> 00:04:53.700 when we can lighten up on our selves. 55 00:04:55.180 --> 00:04:57.260 We tend to lighten up on others, 56 00:04:58.280 --> 00:05:03.000 my friend and we can learn, let go of judgments. 57 00:05:04.020 --> 00:05:09.720 We can roll with the way things are and work with what is 58 00:05:11.360 --> 00:05:12.440 carpy momentum, 59 00:05:13.440 --> 00:05:14.660 I'll talk to you to Morrow