EP126 - Suspend Judgement of Others

WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:12.760 Good Day, my friends 2 00:00:14.020 --> 00:00:20.960 welcome you a moment with Moge. Thank you so much for downloading the show. I 3 00:00:21.040 --> 00:00:26.420 am so happy that you are here to day, and I am super excited 4 00:00:27.420 --> 00:00:34.340 later on after work, I'm going to the recording studio for what I hope is the 5 00:00:34.380 --> 00:00:37.580 last session for this group of songs. 6 00:00:38.680 --> 00:00:44.820 They're almost done, it's been a four year process going to get to hang out 7 00:00:45.000 --> 00:00:51.280 with Chris and Mike my recording engineer, who both been so kind and 8 00:00:51.520 --> 00:00:53.280 mentoring on this project. 9 00:00:54.340 --> 00:00:55.340 I can't wait 10 00:00:56.760 --> 00:00:57.720 to share them with you 11 00:00:58.760 --> 00:01:05.459 hope you had a great weekend and are ready to get started on a new week. 12 00:01:06.720 --> 00:01:09.520 Let's welcome epic tetus back to the show. 13 00:01:10.620 --> 00:01:17.480 An epictetus tells us. We are not privy to the stories behind people's actions, 14 00:01:18.440 --> 00:01:24.180 so we should be patient with others and suspend judgment of them, recognizing 15 00:01:24.260 --> 00:01:28.320 the limits of our understanding. We are constantly 16 00:01:29.400 --> 00:01:31.680 bombarded with impressions. 17 00:01:32.880 --> 00:01:38.760 The ancient stoics defined an impression as a precognitive judgment 18 00:01:39.120 --> 00:01:42.020 originating from our previous experiences 19 00:01:43.060 --> 00:01:45.700 or are subconscious thinking 20 00:01:46.880 --> 00:01:53.560 the impressions that we get are not under our direct control, but whether 21 00:01:53.720 --> 00:01:55.800 we accept them as true or not. 22 00:01:57.180 --> 00:01:58.640 That depends on us 23 00:01:59.940 --> 00:02:06.360 our brain likes to create short cuts, so it will start to recognize patterns 24 00:02:06.900 --> 00:02:10.900 that it thinks are going to keep us safe, so it can make a quick decision 25 00:02:11.680 --> 00:02:12.660 and save energy. 26 00:02:14.160 --> 00:02:19.320 We need to understand where these judgments come from a lot of these 27 00:02:19.360 --> 00:02:25.300 times. These judgments aren't even ours a lot of them. We've picked up from 28 00:02:25.320 --> 00:02:28.380 other people, especially as we were growing up. 29 00:02:29.860 --> 00:02:37.520 We need to examine these judgments all the time to determine whether they're 30 00:02:37.620 --> 00:02:43.120 still serving us. These judgments become part of us and part of our 31 00:02:43.160 --> 00:02:47.740 identity. When it comes to other folks and the things that they do, 32 00:02:49.300 --> 00:02:55.400 we must recognize that we don't have all the background information on 33 00:02:55.660 --> 00:02:58.280 anything, that's happening at the moment. 34 00:02:59.800 --> 00:03:00.640 All that we have 35 00:03:01.980 --> 00:03:07.740 it's a snap shot of what is happening and that our perception of what is 36 00:03:07.780 --> 00:03:13.160 happening. It's just that only our perception 37 00:03:14.480 --> 00:03:19.880 when we can remember that we come to the realization that we don't know 38 00:03:20.220 --> 00:03:26.000 enough of a back story to judge somebody for their actions. 39 00:03:27.680 --> 00:03:33.260 Of course, you guys know me my examples always come from behind the wheel. You 40 00:03:33.300 --> 00:03:37.200 don't know why. Somebody cut you off in traffic 41 00:03:38.320 --> 00:03:43.660 speaking for myself. The initial thought is your nos, but that just may 42 00:03:43.720 --> 00:03:48.900 not be the case. There could be something going on that that person 43 00:03:49.280 --> 00:03:55.860 needs to get one. We can list all the different reasons why somebody might be 44 00:03:55.960 --> 00:04:03.180 in a hurry and might cut us on. Usually I'm betting, just being an Aswell, is 45 00:04:03.420 --> 00:04:03.800 probably 46 00:04:04.900 --> 00:04:10.440 pretty low on the list. That's an impression. That comes to my mind right 47 00:04:10.500 --> 00:04:17.100 away, but I don't have to accept that. As the truth, I don't have to accept 48 00:04:17.180 --> 00:04:22.940 that that person is doing not on purpose just to get on my nerves. 49 00:04:24.260 --> 00:04:25.940 While we're talking about judgment, 50 00:04:26.960 --> 00:04:31.100 let's spend a little time my self judgment a Porre. 51 00:04:32.100 --> 00:04:37.100 We spent a lot of time, judging ourselves and all the ways that we 52 00:04:37.260 --> 00:04:42.540 don't measure it. We have all these expectations of what we should be, 53 00:04:44.200 --> 00:04:50.320 rather than just learning to accept ourselves as who we actually, 54 00:04:51.740 --> 00:04:53.700 when we can lighten up on our selves. 55 00:04:55.180 --> 00:04:57.260 We tend to lighten up on others, 56 00:04:58.280 --> 00:05:03.000 my friend and we can learn, let go of judgments. 57 00:05:04.020 --> 00:05:09.720 We can roll with the way things are and work with what is 58 00:05:11.360 --> 00:05:12.440 carpy momentum, 59 00:05:13.440 --> 00:05:14.660 I'll talk to you to Morrow