EP136 - Study Your Own Failings

WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:18.080 Good Day, my friend welcome to a moment with Moge. Thank you so much for 2 00:00:18.160 --> 00:00:25.000 downloading the show you are giving me the shivers being with me to day been 3 00:00:25.040 --> 00:00:30.380 listening to a lot of Ed Sharon. Lately what a talent happy new year, everybody 4 00:00:30.500 --> 00:00:36.560 first show of the New Year so glad that you're here with me just want to let 5 00:00:36.620 --> 00:00:41.120 you know that I'm going to take a break after this week, I learned in doing the 6 00:00:41.160 --> 00:00:47.080 first season. A hundred shows a hundred shows is a lot of shows in a row, I'm 7 00:00:47.100 --> 00:00:51.580 going to take a break after fifty and then I'll be back to finish off this 8 00:00:51.600 --> 00:00:59.340 season. Monday epictetus in the House and to day epictetus wants us to know. 9 00:01:00.700 --> 00:01:06.580 When you are offended at any man's fault, turn to your soft and study your 10 00:01:06.640 --> 00:01:11.080 own failings, then you will forget your anger. 11 00:01:12.120 --> 00:01:18.740 We can often take note of the way that other people don't measure up and we 12 00:01:18.780 --> 00:01:21.320 can look at the mistakes that people make with a 13 00:01:22.980 --> 00:01:24.840 certain kind of smugness 14 00:01:26.060 --> 00:01:30.340 and watching others fall short, can make us feel better about ourselves. 15 00:01:31.680 --> 00:01:36.340 You want a little proof of that. All you have to do is look at any reality. 16 00:01:36.460 --> 00:01:42.980 TV show, but my friend you know- and I know that this is playing small and 17 00:01:43.060 --> 00:01:48.120 while we can all do this, sometimes let's notice it and let's start to 18 00:01:48.260 --> 00:01:54.960 change things, especially when we get angry that people for making mistakes. 19 00:01:56.180 --> 00:02:01.180 We can often overlook or downright ignore 20 00:02:02.640 --> 00:02:09.800 when we did the exact same thing, we've all done it we've lashed out at someone 21 00:02:09.840 --> 00:02:15.220 when we didn't have all the information we repeated things that maybe we didn't 22 00:02:15.380 --> 00:02:20.040 verify, or they weren't a hundred percent, I curate or we're rude or we 23 00:02:20.160 --> 00:02:23.600 SNOB by people because we're tired or we're frustrating. We just got some 24 00:02:23.640 --> 00:02:29.400 things going on we're, not bad. People were good people and we just made a 25 00:02:29.420 --> 00:02:30.400 mistake. That's all, 26 00:02:31.480 --> 00:02:34.540 but we can often forget that pretty quickly 27 00:02:36.220 --> 00:02:39.400 when we're the object of the mistake, 28 00:02:40.620 --> 00:02:43.780 epictetus has taught us that 29 00:02:44.800 --> 00:02:52.880 how we feel about a situation is a result of the judgment that we put on 30 00:02:52.900 --> 00:03:01.120 it and while it's hard, let's try and remember that people are generally good. 31 00:03:01.140 --> 00:03:06.160 I know there's an Ossol out there, possibly more than one, 32 00:03:07.300 --> 00:03:13.040 but in general, people are pretty good and knowing that people aren't acting 33 00:03:13.200 --> 00:03:13.980 with malice, 34 00:03:15.420 --> 00:03:17.240 can help us to take a breath 35 00:03:18.720 --> 00:03:24.740 and can give us a chance to reframe what is happening or what happened. 36 00:03:25.460 --> 00:03:31.880 Maybe this is just a miscommunication, in fact, it probably is 37 00:03:33.300 --> 00:03:38.880 think how many times you've been misunderstood, and you know it's really 38 00:03:39.200 --> 00:03:42.320 easy to misunderstand somebody: 39 00:03:43.560 --> 00:03:45.160 that's probably what it is, 40 00:03:46.200 --> 00:03:52.100 but my friend, if what some one else does or what some one else says 41 00:03:53.480 --> 00:03:57.720 bothers you so much that you can't let it go. 42 00:03:59.100 --> 00:04:03.420 Perhaps then it's time to look inside yourself, 43 00:04:04.420 --> 00:04:10.820 because what we don't like in others is usually a reflection of what we don't 44 00:04:10.880 --> 00:04:16.839 like in ourselves and maybe what that other person is saying is hitting a 45 00:04:16.880 --> 00:04:18.040 little close to home, 46 00:04:19.140 --> 00:04:24.240 because you know that maybe yeah, that's, probably something you could 47 00:04:24.320 --> 00:04:26.120 work on so this year. 48 00:04:27.460 --> 00:04:31.620 Let's work on not being so easily Abende 49 00:04:32.720 --> 00:04:38.040 my friend. Can we do that and let's just focus on us and what we can do and 50 00:04:38.140 --> 00:04:40.720 what we can control it's going to be a 51 00:04:41.900 --> 00:04:42.780 great year. 52 00:04:43.840 --> 00:04:45.700 Carpet! Momentum, my friend 53 00:04:46.940 --> 00:04:48.160 I'll talk to you to morrow. 54 00:04:59.060 --> 00:04:59.080 I