Dec. 20, 2021

EP136 - THINK Before You Speak

EP136 - THINK Before You Speak

Good day, my friend. Welcome to A Moment with Moj. Thank you so much for downloading the show, I am so happy to be here with you today. Hope you had a great weekend and found some time to get a couple of moments to recharge. It's Monday and we are ready to face the week Epictetus joins us and Epictetus wants to remind you, "Deliberate much before saying or doing anything, for you will not have the power of recalling what is said or done."

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WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:13.960 Good Day, my friend welcome to a moment with mortgage. Thank you so much for 2 00:00:14.040 --> 00:00:19.120 downloading the show. I am so happy to be here with you to day 3 00:00:20.180 --> 00:00:26.660 hope. You had a great week end and found some time to get a couple of 4 00:00:26.800 --> 00:00:33.420 moments to recharge, because it's Monday and we are ready to face the 5 00:00:33.480 --> 00:00:40.500 week. Epictetus joins US and epictetus wants to remind you 6 00:00:42.200 --> 00:00:48.540 deliberate much before saying or doing anything, for you will not have the 7 00:00:48.600 --> 00:00:52.460 power of recalling what is said or done 8 00:00:54.220 --> 00:00:59.840 and just to be clear. Recalling in this case doesn't mean remembering it means 9 00:01:00.500 --> 00:01:02.400 you're not going to be able to take back 10 00:01:03.840 --> 00:01:10.220 the things you said or the things that you've done and being one hundred per 11 00:01:10.280 --> 00:01:13.000 cent on is with you, because that's the way I like to be. 12 00:01:14.260 --> 00:01:21.720 I can tell you that nothing has gotten me into more trouble than my big mouth 13 00:01:22.380 --> 00:01:23.880 and my sharp tongue 14 00:01:25.440 --> 00:01:31.640 most of the time. It's me trying to be funny and to show how witty I am, 15 00:01:32.400 --> 00:01:36.160 because you know what I make myself Lop. I think I'm hilarious, 16 00:01:37.620 --> 00:01:43.600 but being brutally honest, it's not always just me trying to be funny. 17 00:01:44.940 --> 00:01:47.740 Sometimes I'm even aware 18 00:01:48.980 --> 00:01:57.900 that what I am about to say is going to make things worse, and it's almost like. 19 00:01:57.940 --> 00:02:04.800 I can't it's not almost like. I can't. Sometimes I can't do myself even when I 20 00:02:04.920 --> 00:02:07.680 know I'm going to regret it later on, 21 00:02:09.039 --> 00:02:13.080 and it's not always about being mean it's not always about trying death to 22 00:02:13.180 --> 00:02:18.540 win. The argument like I mentioned sometimes I am just trying to be funny, 23 00:02:19.220 --> 00:02:21.520 and I say the first thing that pops into my head 24 00:02:23.220 --> 00:02:27.500 and it's something that I've been working on 25 00:02:28.760 --> 00:02:33.260 for years and years now and to be honest, I think I'm getting ever at it 26 00:02:33.380 --> 00:02:37.280 now. Then I watch twenty twenty five years ago 27 00:02:38.760 --> 00:02:42.620 and while the sticks and stones may break, my bones and words will never 28 00:02:42.700 --> 00:02:47.680 hurt. Me may be true and in fact epictetus himself would tell you it's 29 00:02:47.800 --> 00:02:52.900 not the words that hurt you. It's your judgment of the words it's the way, 30 00:02:52.980 --> 00:02:59.320 you're reacting to the words, and while that may be true, it's also true that 31 00:02:59.540 --> 00:03:05.700 words have power and words have power to be helpful or they have the power to 32 00:03:05.720 --> 00:03:12.480 be hurtful. Our words can tear some one down or they can lift some one up when 33 00:03:12.540 --> 00:03:17.820 we're stressed out or if we're in a highly emotional state, it can be 34 00:03:17.920 --> 00:03:20.700 really easy to say or do something 35 00:03:21.740 --> 00:03:22.960 that we don't mean. 36 00:03:24.040 --> 00:03:29.620 The easiest thing which in this case is probably the hardest thing to do, is to 37 00:03:29.740 --> 00:03:36.200 recognize our triggers to recognize when was tired and when we're stretched 38 00:03:36.280 --> 00:03:43.060 out so that we can hit the pause but and think before we say or do anything 39 00:03:44.020 --> 00:03:44.860 in this case 40 00:03:46.100 --> 00:03:52.780 think is an Acronis for true hopeful, inspiring, 41 00:03:54.040 --> 00:03:56.620 necessary and kind 42 00:03:57.960 --> 00:04:05.080 before we say or do anything ask yourself if what you're about to say is 43 00:04:05.120 --> 00:04:05.700 true 44 00:04:06.780 --> 00:04:12.120 really true, not you think it might kind of be true is what you're going to 45 00:04:12.160 --> 00:04:12.300 say 46 00:04:13.340 --> 00:04:13.680 true 47 00:04:15.080 --> 00:04:18.200 and are your words going to be helped? 48 00:04:19.640 --> 00:04:23.840 Are you going to be inspiring with what you came to say 49 00:04:25.100 --> 00:04:28.480 and do you have to say this? Is it necessary 50 00:04:29.760 --> 00:04:32.840 and are you about to be clined? 51 00:04:34.080 --> 00:04:39.520 It's a lot to think about it's easy, but it's not simple to do this week, 52 00:04:40.400 --> 00:04:41.580 especially this week. 53 00:04:42.680 --> 00:04:48.220 Just try to keep it in the back of your mind, be aware of when you're stressed 54 00:04:48.280 --> 00:04:51.140 out or peeling rushed and tired out. 55 00:04:52.260 --> 00:04:56.920 You don't want to take it out on somebody else. I know that this is 56 00:04:57.140 --> 00:04:58.860 easier said than done. 57 00:04:59.900 --> 00:05:06.820 Andthis is one of those shows where I'm talking to me as much as I'm talking to 58 00:05:06.860 --> 00:05:07.840 you, my friend. 59 00:05:09.040 --> 00:05:14.420 Let's try to be calm this week, let's remember to breathe and take those deep 60 00:05:14.440 --> 00:05:19.480 breaths and continue to try and find a couple moments for yourself. 61 00:05:20.720 --> 00:05:24.340 Carpe momentum, I'll talk to you to Morrow