EP157 - Develop Yourself

WEBVTT 1 00:00:07.750 --> 00:00:14.630 Good Day, my friend. Welcome to a moment with modes. Thank you 2 00:00:14.949 --> 00:00:22.059 so much for downloading the show. I am overjoyed to be spending another moment 3 00:00:22.300 --> 00:00:27.500 with you. Thank you for being here. We mentioned the law of attraction 4 00:00:27.660 --> 00:00:34.140 yesterday, so it's only bidding that Bob proctor joins us today on Speaker's Corner, 5 00:00:34.979 --> 00:00:40.409 and Bob tells us your real purpose in life is to develop yourself. 6 00:00:41.329 --> 00:00:47.770 To successfully do this, you must always be working towards a goal. My 7 00:00:48.049 --> 00:00:56.079 friend, where you start doesn't matter, just that you start. The future 8 00:00:56.719 --> 00:01:03.240 does not get better just by hoping. It gets better. Hoping the future 9 00:01:03.240 --> 00:01:07.670 will be better does play a part. It beats thinking the future is going 10 00:01:07.709 --> 00:01:14.950 to be worse. But it doesn't get better by hope alone. It gets 11 00:01:14.989 --> 00:01:21.420 better by planning and, touching back to what epictetis told us yesterday, it 12 00:01:21.540 --> 00:01:30.180 gets better by doing today we're not talking about that big destination goal. We 13 00:01:30.340 --> 00:01:37.290 know it's out there and we know that we're going to get there. We're 14 00:01:37.409 --> 00:01:42.810 talking about those small goals, those steps that are going to take us there. 15 00:01:42.890 --> 00:01:53.120 Achieving goals will give us confidence that we can in fact achieve goals. 16 00:01:53.319 --> 00:02:00.719 Once our confidence is in place, this will lead to our belief that we 17 00:02:00.879 --> 00:02:07.270 can accomplish goals pretty soon. We have a habit of achieving goals. And 18 00:02:07.430 --> 00:02:10.830 does that mean we're going to achieve every goal we set out? Well, 19 00:02:10.949 --> 00:02:16.659 we know that probably not. There's going to be some failures along the way 20 00:02:17.500 --> 00:02:23.060 because we know that those are learning experiences. But that's not what we're talking 21 00:02:23.099 --> 00:02:30.090 about today. We're talking about those goals, especially the early goals when we're 22 00:02:30.210 --> 00:02:38.210 starting out on our journey. These need to be smart goals, and let's 23 00:02:38.210 --> 00:02:45.400 go over smart goals and, as you may or may not already know, 24 00:02:46.840 --> 00:02:59.949 smart is an acronym that stands for specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and 25 00:03:00.229 --> 00:03:08.270 time based. So let's break it down. Specific vague goals lead to vague 26 00:03:08.349 --> 00:03:15.259 results. You can't take a step if you don't know where to put your 27 00:03:15.340 --> 00:03:23.740 foot. For this example, I'm setting a goal. Chris told me that 28 00:03:23.939 --> 00:03:31.610 to become beginner Level Guitar Teacher, ie teaching people that have absolutely no musical 29 00:03:31.770 --> 00:03:38.810 experience at all. He said there's about ten basic songs that would be good 30 00:03:38.930 --> 00:03:46.439 to know and that will sort of cover enough bases to get somebody started on 31 00:03:46.919 --> 00:03:53.400 playing the guitar. For this example, my specific goal is to learn, 32 00:03:53.319 --> 00:04:00.069 though, is ten songs measurable? What evidence do you have that you are 33 00:04:00.229 --> 00:04:06.710 processing towards completion of your goal? Without a way to measure your success, 34 00:04:08.389 --> 00:04:12.819 how will you know you've achieved it? Well, for my example, it's 35 00:04:12.860 --> 00:04:19.660 easy. Learning one song is evidence that I'm progressing towards learning all of them. 36 00:04:20.339 --> 00:04:28.170 So very measurable, attainable. You have to make sure that the goal 37 00:04:28.649 --> 00:04:34.970 is attainable, but not easily attainable. We want to set the goals that 38 00:04:35.009 --> 00:04:42.560 are just beyond our current skill level, just beyond what we can already do. 39 00:04:43.680 --> 00:04:49.439 If it's too easy, we don't get the satisfaction of having achieved a 40 00:04:49.639 --> 00:04:54.949 goal. And remember, we want to achieve these goals, we want them 41 00:04:55.029 --> 00:05:00.230 to become a habit. One of the easiest ways to maintain and be motivated 42 00:05:00.350 --> 00:05:05.870 toward a new habit is to have these successes. So let's set ourselves up 43 00:05:06.300 --> 00:05:15.139 for success by making these goals attainable relevant. Make sure that the goals that 44 00:05:15.300 --> 00:05:21.009 you are working on are bringing you towards that final destination. So, for 45 00:05:21.170 --> 00:05:27.730 me, this final destination of this journey is to become a guitar teacher. 46 00:05:27.769 --> 00:05:36.519 Learning the ten basic song package is relevant as it's moving me directly towards that 47 00:05:36.800 --> 00:05:46.639 goal and time based. Give these smaller stepping stone goals a deadline. Now 48 00:05:46.720 --> 00:05:50.550 we don't know exactly when we're going to reach the final destination. We can 49 00:05:50.629 --> 00:05:56.709 have an idea and we can have a plan, we don't know exactly when 50 00:05:56.750 --> 00:06:01.269 we're going to get there, but these small stepping stone goals, they can 51 00:06:01.550 --> 00:06:09.100 have a deadline and this is another way for us to claim and celebrate our 52 00:06:09.259 --> 00:06:14.420 successes. As I've mentioned before, if I have a GIG or if I 53 00:06:14.579 --> 00:06:20.329 recording studio date, it's way easier for me to be focused and to maintain 54 00:06:20.370 --> 00:06:27.569 a steady practice. Last couple of things. Write these goals down, and 55 00:06:27.850 --> 00:06:30.610 write them down where you can see them. Don't just write them in a 56 00:06:30.730 --> 00:06:35.000 book or on a piece of paper and throw it in their drawer or close 57 00:06:35.160 --> 00:06:40.439 the book. You have to write these down where you can see them. 58 00:06:41.079 --> 00:06:45.279 I use posted notes in the bathroom. They're on my mirror, so I 59 00:06:45.319 --> 00:06:50.750 see them every morning when I wake up and I see them every night when 60 00:06:50.790 --> 00:06:57.990 I go to bed. And finally, last thing, frame these goals in 61 00:06:58.149 --> 00:07:05.060 a positive way. You're not losing weight, you're getting healthy, you're not 62 00:07:05.339 --> 00:07:13.060 leaving a crappy job. You're moving to a good job. Our thoughts are 63 00:07:13.220 --> 00:07:23.050 what we become, so let's become positive goal achievers. I know that you 64 00:07:23.129 --> 00:07:28.730 can do it and it doesn't matter where we are when we get started, 65 00:07:30.079 --> 00:07:34.519 just that we get started. Let's take a risk of my friend and let's 66 00:07:34.560 --> 00:07:39.920 take that first step. Car Pay Momentum. I'll talk to you tomorrow.