Jan. 25, 2022

EP157 - Develop Yourself

EP157 - Develop Yourself

Good day, my friend. Welcome to A Moment with Moj. Thank you so much for downloading the show. I am overjoyed to be spending another moment with you, thank you for being here. We mentioned the Law of Attraction yesterday so it's only fitting that Bob Proctor joins us today on Speaker's Corner. Bob tells us, "Your real purpose in life is to develop yourself. To successfully do this, you must always be working towards a goal."

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WEBVTT 1 00:00:07.750 --> 00:00:14.630 Good Day, my friend. Welcome to a moment with modes. Thank you 2 00:00:14.949 --> 00:00:22.059 so much for downloading the show. I am overjoyed to be spending another moment 3 00:00:22.300 --> 00:00:27.500 with you. Thank you for being here. We mentioned the law of attraction 4 00:00:27.660 --> 00:00:34.140 yesterday, so it's only bidding that Bob proctor joins us today on Speaker's Corner, 5 00:00:34.979 --> 00:00:40.409 and Bob tells us your real purpose in life is to develop yourself. 6 00:00:41.329 --> 00:00:47.770 To successfully do this, you must always be working towards a goal. My 7 00:00:48.049 --> 00:00:56.079 friend, where you start doesn't matter, just that you start. The future 8 00:00:56.719 --> 00:01:03.240 does not get better just by hoping. It gets better. Hoping the future 9 00:01:03.240 --> 00:01:07.670 will be better does play a part. It beats thinking the future is going 10 00:01:07.709 --> 00:01:14.950 to be worse. But it doesn't get better by hope alone. It gets 11 00:01:14.989 --> 00:01:21.420 better by planning and, touching back to what epictetis told us yesterday, it 12 00:01:21.540 --> 00:01:30.180 gets better by doing today we're not talking about that big destination goal. We 13 00:01:30.340 --> 00:01:37.290 know it's out there and we know that we're going to get there. We're 14 00:01:37.409 --> 00:01:42.810 talking about those small goals, those steps that are going to take us there. 15 00:01:42.890 --> 00:01:53.120 Achieving goals will give us confidence that we can in fact achieve goals. 16 00:01:53.319 --> 00:02:00.719 Once our confidence is in place, this will lead to our belief that we 17 00:02:00.879 --> 00:02:07.270 can accomplish goals pretty soon. We have a habit of achieving goals. And 18 00:02:07.430 --> 00:02:10.830 does that mean we're going to achieve every goal we set out? Well, 19 00:02:10.949 --> 00:02:16.659 we know that probably not. There's going to be some failures along the way 20 00:02:17.500 --> 00:02:23.060 because we know that those are learning experiences. But that's not what we're talking 21 00:02:23.099 --> 00:02:30.090 about today. We're talking about those goals, especially the early goals when we're 22 00:02:30.210 --> 00:02:38.210 starting out on our journey. These need to be smart goals, and let's 23 00:02:38.210 --> 00:02:45.400 go over smart goals and, as you may or may not already know, 24 00:02:46.840 --> 00:02:59.949 smart is an acronym that stands for specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and 25 00:03:00.229 --> 00:03:08.270 time based. So let's break it down. Specific vague goals lead to vague 26 00:03:08.349 --> 00:03:15.259 results. You can't take a step if you don't know where to put your 27 00:03:15.340 --> 00:03:23.740 foot. For this example, I'm setting a goal. Chris told me that 28 00:03:23.939 --> 00:03:31.610 to become beginner Level Guitar Teacher, ie teaching people that have absolutely no musical 29 00:03:31.770 --> 00:03:38.810 experience at all. He said there's about ten basic songs that would be good 30 00:03:38.930 --> 00:03:46.439 to know and that will sort of cover enough bases to get somebody started on 31 00:03:46.919 --> 00:03:53.400 playing the guitar. For this example, my specific goal is to learn, 32 00:03:53.319 --> 00:04:00.069 though, is ten songs measurable? What evidence do you have that you are 33 00:04:00.229 --> 00:04:06.710 processing towards completion of your goal? Without a way to measure your success, 34 00:04:08.389 --> 00:04:12.819 how will you know you've achieved it? Well, for my example, it's 35 00:04:12.860 --> 00:04:19.660 easy. Learning one song is evidence that I'm progressing towards learning all of them. 36 00:04:20.339 --> 00:04:28.170 So very measurable, attainable. You have to make sure that the goal 37 00:04:28.649 --> 00:04:34.970 is attainable, but not easily attainable. We want to set the goals that 38 00:04:35.009 --> 00:04:42.560 are just beyond our current skill level, just beyond what we can already do. 39 00:04:43.680 --> 00:04:49.439 If it's too easy, we don't get the satisfaction of having achieved a 40 00:04:49.639 --> 00:04:54.949 goal. And remember, we want to achieve these goals, we want them 41 00:04:55.029 --> 00:05:00.230 to become a habit. One of the easiest ways to maintain and be motivated 42 00:05:00.350 --> 00:05:05.870 toward a new habit is to have these successes. So let's set ourselves up 43 00:05:06.300 --> 00:05:15.139 for success by making these goals attainable relevant. Make sure that the goals that 44 00:05:15.300 --> 00:05:21.009 you are working on are bringing you towards that final destination. So, for 45 00:05:21.170 --> 00:05:27.730 me, this final destination of this journey is to become a guitar teacher. 46 00:05:27.769 --> 00:05:36.519 Learning the ten basic song package is relevant as it's moving me directly towards that 47 00:05:36.800 --> 00:05:46.639 goal and time based. Give these smaller stepping stone goals a deadline. Now 48 00:05:46.720 --> 00:05:50.550 we don't know exactly when we're going to reach the final destination. We can 49 00:05:50.629 --> 00:05:56.709 have an idea and we can have a plan, we don't know exactly when 50 00:05:56.750 --> 00:06:01.269 we're going to get there, but these small stepping stone goals, they can 51 00:06:01.550 --> 00:06:09.100 have a deadline and this is another way for us to claim and celebrate our 52 00:06:09.259 --> 00:06:14.420 successes. As I've mentioned before, if I have a GIG or if I 53 00:06:14.579 --> 00:06:20.329 recording studio date, it's way easier for me to be focused and to maintain 54 00:06:20.370 --> 00:06:27.569 a steady practice. Last couple of things. Write these goals down, and 55 00:06:27.850 --> 00:06:30.610 write them down where you can see them. Don't just write them in a 56 00:06:30.730 --> 00:06:35.000 book or on a piece of paper and throw it in their drawer or close 57 00:06:35.160 --> 00:06:40.439 the book. You have to write these down where you can see them. 58 00:06:41.079 --> 00:06:45.279 I use posted notes in the bathroom. They're on my mirror, so I 59 00:06:45.319 --> 00:06:50.750 see them every morning when I wake up and I see them every night when 60 00:06:50.790 --> 00:06:57.990 I go to bed. And finally, last thing, frame these goals in 61 00:06:58.149 --> 00:07:05.060 a positive way. You're not losing weight, you're getting healthy, you're not 62 00:07:05.339 --> 00:07:13.060 leaving a crappy job. You're moving to a good job. Our thoughts are 63 00:07:13.220 --> 00:07:23.050 what we become, so let's become positive goal achievers. I know that you 64 00:07:23.129 --> 00:07:28.730 can do it and it doesn't matter where we are when we get started, 65 00:07:30.079 --> 00:07:34.519 just that we get started. Let's take a risk of my friend and let's 66 00:07:34.560 --> 00:07:39.920 take that first step. Car Pay Momentum. I'll talk to you tomorrow.