EP171 - Wish Things to Happen As They Do

WEBVTT 1 00:00:09.349 --> 00:00:17.309 Good Day, my friend. Welcome to a moment with modes. Thank you 2 00:00:17.550 --> 00:00:23.100 so much for downloading the show. I am so happy to be here with 3 00:00:23.260 --> 00:00:32.659 you. epictitis joins the show, and epictitis tells us don't seek to have 4 00:00:32.939 --> 00:00:39.409 events happen as you wish, but wish them to happen as they do happen, 5 00:00:39.490 --> 00:00:45.530 and all will be well with you. We all wish that the things 6 00:00:45.689 --> 00:00:51.759 in our lives happen in a certain way. Of course we do. It's 7 00:00:51.759 --> 00:00:56.399 a natural part of life to want things to work out the way you want 8 00:00:56.439 --> 00:01:00.359 them to work out. The thing is, when when things don't work out 9 00:01:00.759 --> 00:01:07.189 the way we want, it's really easy to feel sad or angry or to 10 00:01:07.750 --> 00:01:17.030 get frustrated. We have the power to influence some outcomes, but we don't 11 00:01:17.230 --> 00:01:25.980 often have the full control all of our outcomes. It doesn't matter how well 12 00:01:26.019 --> 00:01:30.819 we prepare for a job interview, we still don't have the bull control over 13 00:01:30.060 --> 00:01:36.209 whether we get that job or not. The danger is in time, the 14 00:01:36.290 --> 00:01:42.129 way we feel two events that we can't always control. I'm trying my best 15 00:01:42.170 --> 00:01:49.640 to become in different to outcomes and in different doesn't mean that I don't care. 16 00:01:51.079 --> 00:01:57.239 Of course I care, but what it means is that I'm good either 17 00:01:57.319 --> 00:02:04.950 way, and I'm good either way because I know that there's always some good 18 00:02:05.109 --> 00:02:09.789 to be found, there's always a gift, even in a bad situation. 19 00:02:10.710 --> 00:02:17.979 For instance, you guys might remember episode one hundred where I told you about 20 00:02:20.099 --> 00:02:27.020 not getting the prison minister's job and I was really bummed out, really upset 21 00:02:27.139 --> 00:02:32.689 by that. But here's the thing. Because I didn't get that job and 22 00:02:34.009 --> 00:02:39.729 Chris heard me on episode one hundred talk about not getting it, he had 23 00:02:39.810 --> 00:02:46.439 the idea that I would actually be a pretty good guitar teacher and later that 24 00:02:46.560 --> 00:02:50.960 night, when we went out to go see a player, he brought up 25 00:02:51.039 --> 00:02:57.560 that idea with me and of course you guys can imagine how long I've dreamt 26 00:02:57.599 --> 00:03:04.590 about working with Chris. Just the other day we had another talk about how 27 00:03:04.669 --> 00:03:09.430 that could get started. Chris suggested I start doing consults for the school, 28 00:03:10.189 --> 00:03:15.419 talking with potential students and getting to know them, a lot like doing in 29 00:03:16.340 --> 00:03:24.659 interview. To Day I get the email suggesting that am I ready to to 30 00:03:24.860 --> 00:03:32.250 start, and all day long I've been telling myself reasons why I can't start, 31 00:03:34.090 --> 00:03:38.330 why I'm not ready, I don't know enough, just all these reasons 32 00:03:38.409 --> 00:03:42.479 and I thought to say, you know what, no, I'm not ready 33 00:03:42.520 --> 00:03:46.400 yet. Maybe let's do it in a week. Let's do it, you 34 00:03:46.520 --> 00:03:49.639 know, let's do it in two weeks when I when I get a little 35 00:03:49.639 --> 00:03:54.159 bit more experience and listening how Chris does these, then I'll be ready. 36 00:03:54.159 --> 00:04:00.870 Years and years I've been dreaming of this and now to day I'm thinking of 37 00:04:00.990 --> 00:04:09.469 ways I can put it off for another week and I thought, what would 38 00:04:09.469 --> 00:04:15.060 I tell you, my friend? I would tell you to take that chance. 39 00:04:15.819 --> 00:04:23.220 You don't have to wait until you think you're ready begin and learn. 40 00:04:24.019 --> 00:04:27.490 So I don't know if you can tell, I've been a little bit distracted 41 00:04:27.569 --> 00:04:33.129 while recording this episode and I just wanted to play this to you. That 42 00:04:35.290 --> 00:04:43.240 was me sending the email saying yes, I'm ready to begin. There is 43 00:04:43.560 --> 00:04:48.879 good in bad situations. There's a gift if you can look for it. 44 00:04:49.680 --> 00:04:55.069 I was so upset when I didn't get that job and now, because I 45 00:04:55.430 --> 00:05:00.189 didn't get that job, look at what I'm starting. It happened to me. 46 00:05:00.870 --> 00:05:08.220 It can happen to you if you just believe. You believing, you 47 00:05:09.339 --> 00:05:13.019 can pay momentum. I'll talk to you tomorrow. I