Feb. 17, 2022

EP174 - No One Can Make You Feel Inferior

EP174 - No One Can Make You Feel Inferior

Good day, my friend. Welcome to A Moment with Moj. Thank you so much for downloading this show! I am walking on sunshine to day. 

Thankful Thursday, thank you so much for everything you do, special shout out to chiliwillie73, who bought me a coffee at amomentwithmoj.com Thank you so much chili, It sure helps to keep me going. 

Not only thankful Thursday, but also Ladies Day here on A Moment with Moj and we welcome Eleanor Roosevelt to the show. The first lady tells us, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

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WEBVTT 1 00:00:11.150 --> 00:00:18.030 Good Day, my friend. Welcome to Um moment with modes. Thank you 2 00:00:18.350 --> 00:00:27.780 so much for downloading this show. I am walking on Sunshine to day thankful 3 00:00:28.179 --> 00:00:33.579 Thursday. Thank you so much for everything you do. Special shout out to 4 00:00:33.820 --> 00:00:40.250 chilly Willie seventy three, who bought me a coffee at a moment with modescom 5 00:00:40.609 --> 00:00:46.289 thank you so much, chilly. It's sure helps to keep me going. 6 00:00:48.130 --> 00:00:53.320 Not only thankful Thursday, but also lady's Day. Here on a moment with 7 00:00:53.600 --> 00:01:00.439 mode and we welcome Eleanor Roosevelt to the show, and the first lady tells 8 00:01:00.479 --> 00:01:08.189 us no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. I've been thinking 9 00:01:08.310 --> 00:01:18.189 a lot and talking a lot about music this week and my journey through music, 10 00:01:19.299 --> 00:01:26.620 and, of course, any thoughts about that always brings me back to 11 00:01:26.780 --> 00:01:30.379 that June Day in one thousand nine hundred and eighty three when I was told 12 00:01:30.420 --> 00:01:37.969 I couldn't sing by someone I looked up to. As you know, if 13 00:01:38.049 --> 00:01:44.370 you've listened to the show for a while, that that day really messed me 14 00:01:44.409 --> 00:01:49.920 up, and it messed me up because I let it mess me up. 15 00:01:52.280 --> 00:01:59.680 Now, I was fifteen at the time, not fifty five like I am 16 00:01:59.799 --> 00:02:06.629 now. However, after forty years, who? I didn't think about that 17 00:02:06.870 --> 00:02:12.789 part before forty years. Anyway, after forty years, I can still get 18 00:02:12.789 --> 00:02:19.379 suckered in the feeling this way every now and again, but thankfully, philosophy 19 00:02:20.180 --> 00:02:25.219 has really helped me tremendously with this. This quote speaks to people who are 20 00:02:25.620 --> 00:02:32.729 trying to purposely make us feel inferior. Marcus, it really is, talks 21 00:02:32.770 --> 00:02:38.849 about it in meditations to all point for how we love ourselves the most, 22 00:02:38.930 --> 00:02:49.039 and what he means is will fight for our survival more than anything. Yet, 23 00:02:49.080 --> 00:02:53.039 when it comes to matters of opinion, that we value the opinions of 24 00:02:53.319 --> 00:03:00.310 others more than our own. We all want to feel accepted by the people 25 00:03:00.310 --> 00:03:08.069 we look up to or by our community. We are willing to sacrifice ourselves 26 00:03:08.469 --> 00:03:15.539 and how we actually feel in order to fit in. Now, when it 27 00:03:15.620 --> 00:03:21.819 comes to this person who's trying to make you feel this way, first look 28 00:03:21.900 --> 00:03:27.930 at the source. Most people that go out of their way to hurt and 29 00:03:28.169 --> 00:03:38.129 insult other people are actually pretty hurting themselves. They lash out at us, 30 00:03:38.849 --> 00:03:45.879 at you, as a defense mechan is mm, because making someone else feel 31 00:03:46.240 --> 00:03:52.919 bad is the only way that they can make themselves feel better. Making you 32 00:03:53.000 --> 00:04:02.949 feel bad about you means you can't see their shortcomings. EPIC titis. Back 33 00:04:03.030 --> 00:04:09.150 to where philosophy helps me with this. EPIC titis also teaches us, as 34 00:04:09.270 --> 00:04:15.939 you know, to control what we can control. When we think that person 35 00:04:16.100 --> 00:04:23.060 said something mean or careless to me and it hurt my friend, those are 36 00:04:23.100 --> 00:04:30.930 actually two separate things. One we can't control any one. That we can 37 00:04:30.250 --> 00:04:39.240 control. You can't control what somebody says to you, but you can control 38 00:04:40.040 --> 00:04:46.040 your reaction to what was said. Now, I know sometimes in the heat 39 00:04:46.079 --> 00:04:49.600 of the moment, somebody says something pretty crappy to you and you can get 40 00:04:49.600 --> 00:04:55.069 angry and flare up. I understand that and that happens to me too. 41 00:04:56.029 --> 00:05:00.750 But we don't have to let it continue. Once we get past that initial 42 00:05:00.829 --> 00:05:11.899 reaction, we get to choose how we feel about that situation. We get 43 00:05:11.939 --> 00:05:18.579 to choose how we feel about that insult. So remember the next time when 44 00:05:18.740 --> 00:05:26.769 someone tries to make you feel small and less than they're actually saying to you 45 00:05:28.490 --> 00:05:34.529 how they really feel about themselves. It says way more about them than you. 46 00:05:35.720 --> 00:05:42.439 Small people want you to feel small, but the great people in your 47 00:05:42.480 --> 00:05:53.149 life they want you to feel great too. Don't let someone else dim your 48 00:05:53.310 --> 00:05:58.910 shine. Carpe momentum. I'll talk to You Tomorrow