March 12, 2022

EP190 - Listening, A Treasured Gift

EP190 - Listening, A Treasured Gift

Good day, my friend. Welcome to A Moment with Moj. Thank you so much for downloading the show. I'm so happy that we made it through the week and the weekend is here. L.A. Villafane joins the show today. And L.A. says, "The simple act of listening to someone, and making them feel as if they have truly been heard, is a most treasured gift."

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Transcript
WEBVTT 1 00:00:06.480 --> 00:00:13.000 Good Day, my friend. Welcome to a moment with modes. Thank you 2 00:00:13.199 --> 00:00:18.600 so much for downloading the show. I'm so happy that we made it through 3 00:00:18.640 --> 00:00:26.440 the week and the weekend is here. La Bill of Fayne joins the show 4 00:00:26.559 --> 00:00:34.719 today and La says the simple act of listening to someone and making them feel 5 00:00:35.159 --> 00:00:42.520 as if they have truly been heard is a most treasured gift. The day. 6 00:00:42.560 --> 00:00:47.479 The time is finally come. where I live, in British Columbia Canada, 7 00:00:48.079 --> 00:00:54.719 the government has dropped the indoor mask man date. It seems to me 8 00:00:55.200 --> 00:01:03.359 that this is going to be a spring and summer of gatherings and parties and 9 00:01:03.480 --> 00:01:08.920 getting together with people that we may not have seen for a while. And 10 00:01:10.079 --> 00:01:15.159 after all the hugs and all the pleasant trees, folks are going to want 11 00:01:15.200 --> 00:01:21.840 to talk and they may want to talk about some heavy stock, because we 12 00:01:21.879 --> 00:01:26.280 don't know how long it's been since somebody maybe has has been able to really 13 00:01:26.319 --> 00:01:33.959 open up to somebody. There before we get back to socialize in full steam, 14 00:01:34.120 --> 00:01:42.640 let's take this weekend to practice our listening skills. Remember, hearing and 15 00:01:42.719 --> 00:01:49.159 listening aren't the same thing. Just because we can hear the other person and 16 00:01:49.319 --> 00:01:57.280 understand the words that they're using doesn't mean we're actually listening when we're looking at 17 00:01:57.280 --> 00:02:06.519 our phone, looking out the window, answering an email. We're not listening 18 00:02:06.719 --> 00:02:13.360 when we're thinking about what to say next before the person is even done speaking. 19 00:02:13.599 --> 00:02:19.919 We're not listening when we're interrupting so that we can make our point. 20 00:02:19.919 --> 00:02:28.560 We're not listening. This weekend, let's practice really listening to the people that 21 00:02:28.639 --> 00:02:35.919 we're conversing with. Instead of looking around or looking at our phone, let's 22 00:02:36.000 --> 00:02:40.120 actually look at the people were talking to. Let's maintain some eye contact. 23 00:02:40.159 --> 00:02:46.000 I mean I don't mean stir at somebody, but look at them when they're 24 00:02:46.080 --> 00:02:54.759 speaking to you. And we don't only use our faces to communicate with people, 25 00:02:54.840 --> 00:03:01.639 but we use our bodies to leaning back with your arms crossed doesn't send 26 00:03:01.680 --> 00:03:08.000 the impression that you care to hear what's being said to you. Remember, 27 00:03:08.000 --> 00:03:14.159 we're not judging what's being said, even if we don't agree with it. 28 00:03:14.960 --> 00:03:21.319 We're listening. Let's lean in a bit, show the people that were interested 29 00:03:21.439 --> 00:03:28.719 and maintain an open body posture. And when it does become our turn to 30 00:03:28.840 --> 00:03:37.280 talk, if you didn't understand what somebody was saying or what they meant, 31 00:03:37.560 --> 00:03:42.240 ask, ask for a little clarification, but don't interrupt while they're talk and 32 00:03:42.280 --> 00:03:53.360 wait till it's your turn. And really important, don't offer solutions or opinions 33 00:03:53.680 --> 00:04:01.639 unless you're actually asked for them. We're not there to solve problems. We're 34 00:04:01.719 --> 00:04:11.879 there to listen and make sure that the person that is speaking to US knows 35 00:04:11.919 --> 00:04:17.079 that they've been heard. It may be the only time, or the first 36 00:04:17.120 --> 00:04:29.439 time in a long time, that somebody actually feels bird. That is our 37 00:04:29.480 --> 00:04:46.680 gift this weekend. CRPE momentum o'p Tak to you in a couple of days. 38 -->